Feeling disconnected in your relationship is painful and unsettling – and every couple finds themselves at a crossroad of conflict and potential transformation. You may have lost the dreams you started with and wonder if you can ever reclaim them and have the passionate, secure relationship you set out to create. Maybe there has been an affair and you are trying to heal from it. Maybe you know that it is time to say goodbye in a way that honours and respects your time together. Or maybe you want to reconnect with your partner in a new, exciting way.
Around the world I teach that your relationship is truly the biggest asset and resource you have in your life. We all know this on some level because when your relationship is buffeted by pain and misunderstandings your whole capacity to do life smoothly is compromised – and of course the opposite is also true, that when comfortable connection is restored then your joint capacity to be resilient and take risks is hughly expanded!
Couples come to me saying they need to learn how to communicate better and while that makes sense, I tell them they are always communicating-even in those loaded silences! What is missing is that sense of connection that makes every conversation flow more easily and I am an expert in helping couples learn to create the conditions for connection so that they can reinvent their relationship. With this new understanding couples can quickly begin to clear the debris between them and move forwards with a new excitement energised by the possibilities they have seen.
In todays busy world it can be challenging for a couple to find regular times for an appointment where they are both fresh and relaxed to do one of the most important experiences of their lives. Often the only time available is at the end of a long day with possible childcare and commuting matters to be arranged session by session. In my experience this is often a difficult commitment for couples to make.
A Couples Intensive gives a couple the benefit of a ‘bubble’ of high quality, relaxed time together in which to get to the heart of the stuck place between you. Through a careful laying of a thorough foundation of new skills and experiences on Day One, you begin to see the inner logic of what has been happening between you and the pollution that has built up as a result. The following two half days shows you as a couple how to together shift that stuck place between you in new and powerful ways. As I guide you through these experiences you will both begin to:
* Understand how your brain functions and how to use it to shape your relationship positively.
* Use the three invisible connectors that create the conditions for connection in any relationship.
* Increase the passion and intimacy of your togetherness again.
* Increase your confidence in using your relationship skills and tools to develop a deeply satisfying relationship.
The effect of the Intensive is to begin to dissolve the pollution in the space between you and replace it with understanding, safety and intimacy. You will learn how to repair the rupture that conflict seems to bring and reclaim the joy that is part of a thriving relationship.
As you integrate these new skills into your everyday life you will find yourselves more able to navigate any challenges you face from co-parenting, finances, your sex life and more. You will find that anything can be talked about in a place of safe, respectful and compassionate connection. This is vitally important to any children supported by the relationship as the space between the parents will be either the playground or battlefield of the child.
These powerful shifts from the Intensive experience stay true when the decision from one or both partners is to separate or divorce, and using the new understanding and skills goes a long way to help the parenting team and towards a safe nourishing space for the children and any the possiblity of solid, new relationships for both partners in the future.